Kathrin Lake, author of From Survival to Thrival documents her first Tango lessons inspired by Tim Ferriss’s book The 4 -Hour Workweek.
Tango Lesson number 7.
I thought I did much better tonight in my tango lesson, and I attribute it to one critical thing. Don’t think. Just go with the lead, go with the flow. Another example of how my tango lessons can be transferred to life lessons. Especially as women, we do tend to over analyze everything. Perhaps that is why it is a man’s world. Men can run it without thinking. Okay that was a little sexist joke… or not. Perhaps the tango allows me to embrace irreverence. The tango may not be irreverent, but neither is it at all conventional. It is about sex,desire, seduction and the dance between lovers. It gives me an irreverent feeling because with my North American upbringing it is fun to be blatantly going for the sex appeal. In the Argentine tango, this is all in the feet.
All my life I have been told “don’t drag your feet!” Now I spend hours doing nothing but dragging my feet and it looks good, real good. Gabriella teaches us all the tricks, like how a slightly cocked ankle during a pause can look drippingly sexy. Subtle but sensuous. Argentine Tango is not like ballroom tango that goes for showy effects and double take flipping of the head at every turn. The true Argentine tango is like the new found couple in the corner of a noisy wedding reception, leaning into one another, oblivious to the others yet making subtle come-ons in their moves. What is going on there is far more sexy than the brash groom and bride, making a big production of the kiss and dip with the clinking of glasses. That is the difference between the Argentine and the ballroom tango.
When I danced tonight with another woman who was trying to be the lead for our practice, she tells me what a great leader/dancer Jim is. Jim, my partner, is in the next level up. I have to confess to her that we have danced very little tango together at this point. I am told that Gabriela, our teacher, with her magnificent, outrageous Argentinian personality, apparently put on a little demonstration using Jim to lead her. Jim performed it so flawlessly that at the end of it Gabriela yelled out, “Jim, take me now!” Everyone laughed and Jim blushed to his toes, but was flattered.
Tonight, at the end of the class, and because it is my birthday, she makes me do a demo for the class with her. Nerves! I started thinking, and then just decided to stop. Results? I didn’t do too badly and Gabriela is heavy on Spanish praise “Eso!” “Muya Bien!” Thankfully, there was no sexual references. Not bad for an old girl of…never mind. But while I am here , I live. Stop thinking people, start living. As they say, if you are not living, you are dying.
Find out more about what Kathrin does to live a full life at: http://www.survivaltothrival.com/